By using our Services or clicking I agree, you agree to our use of cookies. Don't short change yourself. SHARE. Press question mark to learn the rest of the keyboard shortcuts. Check out r/personalfinance and r/financialindependence. This is gonna be a really depressing post so read at your will. 1. I studied everyday and worked really hard but it wasn't enough. 3rd Civil engineering. Depending on where you live, this is not chump change. My CPA uncle gets $150k in bonuse. See what they had to say below. 1. Share on Twitter. Posted Nov 08, 2016 . I downloaded headspace and did practice it every now and then. I feel like I shouldn’t be an engineer at all if I couldn’t pass a basic math class. Usually, they offer mock interviews and other helpful tools. The only good things driving me at this point are the facts that I was able to secure my first co-op for this upcoming term and doing well this past semester gives me some vague hope of recovering my GPA in the three remaining semesters. GPA only matters for your first job really. So, remember, only take responsibility for your part, and let the rest go. Your GPA may not be steller, but I have heard of students who have been able to achieve high quality jobs. on social skills, and it takes time. I get it—I’ve been there. Unless it is necessary, you should consider lowering that amount of work and start investing in other resources. Advice. So I have to be honest with myself and i've given up any hope on women outside of prostitutes. The award recognizes excellence of research and presentation at the RDD … People in law, business and medicine making $200-300k, successful lives, adoration and what not. Having others isn't an option so work will have to do for me. By using our Services or clicking I agree, you agree to our use of cookies. I've never failed before but I'll probably fail on a paper this sem so CHEERS TO THAT! What do you do when you feel like a failure or when you have missed an opportunity or a goal? It can make me feel like crying. Feeling like a failure. Join a fitness class. Fuck I already do all that anyways. Any advice? Ive kind of given up on others and work to make me happy. All of a sudden, she blurted out: “You know, I always feel like a failure at work. I can "be nice and put in effort". Source: Pexels. I could pass only in two subjects. I failed miserably in engineering. Having said that however having either of those is better then being alone. I'm not a dumbass. But it’s not. Finally, 65k-95k is not something most plumbers make outside of school. Be nice, put in effort, learn the social rules. first semester. A 2.7 isn't getting me in anywhere. It like from when we were born the seed is planted in us to have the strong desire to own. Would you date a woman who had all the qualities you have? But our third born introduced a few new quirks and personality traits we hadn’t seen before. Congratulations to James Ivey, who was awarded the Virginia Commonwealth University's Respiratory Drug Delivery Peter R. Byron Graduate Student Award at the 2018 RDD conference in Tucson, Arizona. Stop feeling like a failure by getting rid of negative thoughts, changing your focus, and taking action to improve your physical and mental health. Posted by 2 years ago. I have utilized alot of the resources available to me and they've all helped me tremendously. I don't want to have 9-5 life cause I don't think that'll do me any good except give me more time to sit alone in my dark room and think. Ill never be able to have that smiling, vibrant life so might as well work like a dog for the fast and rich life. This is gonna be a really depressing post so read at your will. Once you let it in, it can be very hard to shift away from negative feelings and self-doubt. I didnt have the social skills going in to uni to make friends and that combined with slight ADHD and a speech impediment means that as of right now I talk to exactly 0 of the people I met in uni. But yeah that's my rant. You can succeed past your past. Log in sign up. Even those not in those fields at least have some sort of connection to people and society around them. Working at the limits of your field can be frustrating. I mean fuck just look at Donald Trump. I got divorced last year and can’t afford a place on my own. cheers to me experiencing failure and it feels not bad at the moment, i guess i gotta get used to that LOOOOLLL. “Do I feel like a failure as a mom? It’s a plain fact that you did not do something you meant to do. Join a team sport. Success and money isn't an indicator of happiness (though I will say money helps, but you'll still feel empty). Hi there Nurse Beth, I am a Registered Nurse since August last year. It … On the other hand, failing is just failing. You should not feel like a failure but I do understand why you would feel like one though. It was the most important thing I have done on my leadership journey. I disagree with this point completely. Don't do this. What's the point becoming a fat cubicle nerd doing math for $65k while these white collars are making $300k snorting coke off of pornstars tits. I'm 25 and I feel like a failure. EMAIL. I completed my MCA and struggled for 7 months to get a rid of fresher tag. Its already stagnant and probably not changing but I see your point. MBA, law and stuff. Yeah, society sucks, but if you want to be a part you have to pay in. Share on Facebook. This is an unpopular opinion here, but I invested in Chegg and it has helped me a lot in the long run. I kept thinkingnking to myself what if I had done something else. If I haven't figured it out yet I don't think I'm getting anywhere in a long term relationship. So, what, this is just a reason to stagnate at the age of probably <25 years old and just say "this is the cards I was dealt?" Online has made this harder and i had to drop calc 2 and chem 2 in order to keep my financial aid. Hey friend, I was almost at your position 3.5 years back. If you're willing to work for a dog for money that won't even make you happy, why not work like a dog on yourself? I am 43 years old and not good looking. I definitely could have gotten the high premed GPA, the high MCAT score, the whatever else you need. There are plenty of people on this subreddit with sub 2.8 GPAs who get jobs. All I have to show for myself is that I know computer programming and I make a living for myself (~$1k - 2k) as a computer programmer, but I have no qualifications, and I'm unhappy with my job. It didn't get handed to most of the rest of us either. You have a lot of room for self improvement before you give up on women. My love for lifting/MMA is one of the things that keeps me going. If you’re feeling bad due to a failure that happened in the past, you probably aren’t the only one to blame in the situation. It is such a British thing to have and own our little bit of this island. Photo: iStock/Elena Gurova . I did think initially that it'd work but after constant failures and realizing I'm socially completely unappealing and I'll spend most of that time alone. 1. But circumstances and my permanent GPA will always make it seem that way. You're young. Even then, some companies don't look at it. I am an introvert and I am not sociable, I dont have friends and find it very difficult to make one. We all should want more. Personal growth and personality is all on you to develop. I say fuck that. because of their professions. You need to have a high GPA to move forward through the programs and be accepted to med school. Grow as a person otherwise your personal life won't grow. My life problems extend way beyond engineering but my life drastically went to shit after starting uni so it's definitely interconnected. You commented on my post quite awhile ago in summer that helped me by a mile, I wish I could return the advice to you. I've basically pissed away the last 25 years of my life. Instead what's seeming more likely is that not only will I most likely end up with a below mediocre life earning $65-95k that a plumber can earn too (no hate on plumbers), but I'll also have reduced opportunities elsewhere cause of a shit GPA. After making amends with what you’ve done, then let that go too! If I could afford a therapist I'd probably do that instead. Close. Exactly. Also (being completely honest and possibly mean), what makes you think you would have made it through pre-med and med school? I was moving around and just couldn't focus. Cookies help us deliver our Services. Just need some motivation. November 30, 2020 by admin 0 Comments. Archived. Being ugly+ADHD+speech impediment that makes me not be able to speak more then 4 words is indeed a very shit fucking hand. Share on LinkedIn. Even those not in those fields at least have some sort of connection to people and society around them. It won't follow you around like a criminal record. Instead what's seeming more likely is that not only will I most likely end up with a below mediocre life earning $65-95k. Thanks. It's their job. Have you tried practicing "mindfulness"? Share on Pinterest. So I have to be honest with myself and i've given up any hope on women outside of prostitutes. Additionally, I think you should keep going because you are right near the finish line. I had almost got the job four times before my actual first job. You're doing great. You feel like a failure for not knowing your immediate next step after graduation. My life problems extend way beyond engineering but my life drastically went to shit … Press J to jump to the feed. That combined with the fact I have no real life outside my room and am facially ugly even after losing weight and getting in shape makes me feel like absolute shit relative to the people around me. Seven years ago, my boss got everyone to complete a DiSC profile. This helped me alot. Instead you can learn to master your thoughts. What if I had done medicine instead like my brother who makes well into six figures. 1. I guess it helped give prespective on some points. I will say there was a point in my life where money wasn't an issue really (through the military), had a girlfriend, pretty much a "normal" person but I still felt empty. People in law, business and medicine making $200-300k, successful lives, adoration and what not. It was a stepping stone to a better life. That's the thing though. That combined with the fact I have no real life outside my room and am facially ugly even after losing weight and getting in shape makes me feel like absolute shit relative to the people around me. Or get some hobbies, go outside, meet people, practice your social skills, and create your smiling vibrant life with your own hands. I went into engineering thinking it would enhance my life. I kept thinkingnking to myself what if I had done something else. As an older student, struggled through depression (suicide attempts) and feelings of worthlessness and still do, I will say it doesn't get easier. A few months into the course, I was talking to one of my female classmates about her day at work. New comments cannot be posted and votes cannot be cast, More posts from the EngineeringStudents community, Continue browsing in r/EngineeringStudents. You can work on social skills, and it takes time. I want to fall on a bed and shut out the world. I feel lonely and I want to give up. In hindsight, there are a few things I probably should have done differently… By the time you have your third kid, you kind of think you’ve seen it all. Working 70-90 hours of week is inconceivable. I want more. Failure Lyrics: I don't get what I want / I get what I need / Every single day Im heading off to my dream / And I get everything / That I damn well please / I don't give a damn if you all listenin You're not going to grow alone, in a dark room. Mostly my own fault for having severe ongoing depression and anxiety for the first two years and switching around too much. Press J to jump to the feed. Try talking with classmates and taking advantage of your college's respective career center. Press J to jump to the feed. Pick up a hobby, lift weights, read some comics, and take it a day at a time. That doesn't mean it's the end of the world. Feeling like a failure can be stifling and it can start to infect every aspect of your life. Feeling inferior at work can have a detrimental effect on your health, but it’s often your health outside of work that can cause the hiccup in performance. Believe me this your turning point in life. You're giving up too soon. Work on yourself. I wish you the best of luck and I’ll be praying for you! Become somebody you'd want to date. For EE, starting salaries are expected in the 65k range. Parents. You can do this. Robyn Braun - 17 May 2018 . It's not going to be handed to you on a silver platter. Once again thank you for taking the time for this response and happy new year. I meant grad school. Life and success isn't just about money. That's just infuriating and unfair to me. At this point I just feel written off from society. More posts from the EngineeringStudents community, Continue browsing in r/EngineeringStudents. I think the most significant thing about failure is that we usually think of it as something that happens to us from the outside. You can get through this, in a few years some of these problems won’t even matter to you. Its over. Like 500-percent.” Social media influencer and YouTuber Myka Stauffer revealed in a YouTube video that she has “re-homed” the little boy she adopted years ago. Have any of you felt similar feelings and how'd you deal with them? Your local community may have free resources as well. This is a place for engineering students of any discipline to discuss study methods, get homework help, get job search advice, and find a compassionate ear when you get a 40% on your midterm after studying all night. Otherwise you'll always be unhappy. Feeling like a constant failure can negatively affect your health and well-being. You have to put in effort to join into society. I don't however at all like the fact that I'm fighting over the difference between $65-95k when doctors, lawyers and business people easily clear $200-300k. Though, one tip, you won't be very successful getting a girlfriend until you can be successful being happy with friends. REALLY GOOD. That's the best most honest advice you've given here. Cookies help us deliver our Services. A romantic partner is a garnish to a happy life, not the main entree. The problem is we think letting go means defeat and then feel like a failure when in some cases it actually means freedom and victory. Not now not ever cause I don't think alot of the things that can be self improved can fix permenant problems. For example, I would spend hours trying to work out book problems and I would get nowhere often. Am I beyond salvaging? User account menu. get into something where I work like a dog 70-90 hours a week to distract me from life problems and make alot of money. I can get a job of course. Law school, banking whatever field it takes cause unfortunately it isn't happening in engineering and I should've been smart enough to see that. In hindsight, there are a few things I probably should have done differently... By Rachel Cameron November 23, 2020. As a reminder that good can come of a marriage ending, we asked our readers on Facebook to share how they feel about the idea that divorce is a failure-- and to share the reasons their marriages were of value, even if they didn't last. I try and be happy without women but in reality I know deep down I CANT become that person women want. Well, one of the things I want to say about failure is that it feels very raw. FOCUS ON THIS. We make crap money for the effort we put in for engineering when we could've put in the same effort for something like medicine that actually would've paid me more. But MONEY, STATUS, POWER are all what matter in this world. Feeling like a failure. Good point. Most of the time, there are, at least, two or more people involved. But circumstances and my permanent GPA will always make it seem that way. Failure can hurt. I still think a shit ton of money will make me more happy but honestly I haven't had personal life success so I could totally be wrong. The only good things driving me at this point are the facts that I was able to secure my first co-op for this upcoming term and doing well this past semester gives me some vague hope of recovering my GPA in the three remaining semesters and get into something where I work like a dog 70-90 hours a week to distract me from life problems and make alot of money. 83 COMMENTS. Feeling like a failure comes from your interpretation of who you are. Yeah I agree with you on that. THESE ARE REALLY GOOD THINGS. People get this idea about me, that I am successful and disciplined and gurulike. You've already encountered great success! It helps marginally but it's something. We can't get in a good relationship or we are in a relationship that ends painfully or we can't get a job. This is on you. 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